On this day, February 14, 2017, traditionally known as Valentine’s Day, it is customary to express our love and affection for our significant other and those who are of importance to us. We give each other flowers, candy, jewelry and other expressions of that love as an outward testament of our affections.
Prior to marrying my husband several years ago, I spent a very long time as a single and spent many a Valentine’s Day alone and without someone to share the day and special moments of love. At first, Valentine’s Day was tough and even a bit depressing. I wondered why it was that everyone else I seemed to know had someone special to share it with but me. As the years moved on, I came to realize that Valentine’s Day was not defined by who loved me or chose to show they affections toward me, rather, it became a time for me to take one special day to love and recognize myself! What a revelation.
I learned to really take a moment to appreciate who I was, what I had accomplished in my life and would appreciate me for the woman I had become. I did not need to have a man or person in my life to hand me a box of chocolates and flowers to validate me. I got so excited about my newly found love for myself that I would make myself a nice dinner, have some wine and even buy myself a gift..I worked hard all year so why not. Sometimes it was a great opportunity to invite other friends over to celebrate our friendship or to go out for the evening and celebrate each other.
So, on this Valentine’s Day, I would like to encourage you to spend the day loving yourself. Regardless of whether or not you are also celebrating with your significant other, do something nice, something special today that is just for you. It may be a trip to the nail salon, it may be an extra long walk or yoga class, it may be a quiet hour to read a book or meditate. Whatever you chose to do, make some time that is just for you to be able to appreciate who you are and what you do every day.
I learned this exercise during my studies at IIN and it has stuck with me over the years. Look at the photo below and review the signature strengths that are listed. Think about all of the strengths on this list that you posses and use every day. Think about some new ways you can use those strengths in your life to show your love for either your partner, your family, your job and then commit to using your strengths in that new way for the next week. Get yourself a notebook and keep track of the strengths you use and how implementing them affects you. Share the experience with someone you love or for something you love and see what happens. ENJOY!
There are still 39 days, 6 hours and 17 minutes left until Spring 2017 is officially here. So, that means we still have a lot of time to deal with winter in many parts of the country.
I’m very fortunate to be living in Texas where it is 86 degrees and sunny so I already feel like spring has arrived. But, that can change at the drop of a hat around here and I know that in places like Chicago, Minneapolis and in many other cities, it is cold, blustery and the rhythms of winter are still if full force.
How do you stay balanced through the remainder of winter? What can you do to make the most of the season, protect your health keep from getting the winter blues for the next 39 days? There are some great Ayurvedic techniques you can adopt that will help you throughout the winter season and help you to flourish and not just cope with the days ahead.
Ayurveda blossomed thousands of years ago when the world was much different than it is today. People functioned more closely in tune with nature and their surroundings and slept and were awakened by their circadian rhythms and not by terrifying alarm clocks signaling the time to get up for work!
Ayurveda is based on the notion that there are three main doshas, vata (the energy of movement), pitta (the energy of digestion or metabolism and kappa (the energy of structure and lubricatio). The practice also says that every human body is in tune with one of these dosha and they correlate to the seasons with vata being winter, pitta being summer and kapha being spring.
That being the case, winter is the cycle of vata and by standing in harmony with the natural cycle of winter, you can help to build your health, energy and the ability to fight off cold and disease during the winter. How can you do that? By adjusting what you eat, the type of exercise you are doing or any type of herbs or supplements you may take can affect the way you feel during the winter months.
Here are some hints to make the remaining part of winter a bit easier to handle!
* Wake up a little bit later than in other seasons (extend your sleep by 30-60 minutes if possible)
* Have a warm cup of water with lemon first thing in the morning to get your digestive system moving
* Treat yourself to an extra long shower and towel scrub before work
* Add in some yoga or meditation before getting the day started to open the chest, throat and sinuses
* Eat a nutritious breakfast of oatmeal or grains like quinoa and add cinnamon for heating but sweet spice
* Drink tea instead of coffee and add 1/2 tsp cinnamon and a pinch of clove to increase digestion
* Exercise regularly to increase blood flow and circulation when we naturally tend to be more sedate in the winter
* Get some sun! If you don’t want to walk out in the cold, sit by a nice window and soak up some rays. The vitamin D helps with mood
* Eat foods that are warming and nourishing like homemade soups, steamed veggies and add spices to them.
* Avoid dairy as it increases mucus and congestion which can already be a bother in winter when we are closed indoors
* Enjoy a glass or two of sweet or dry wine with dinner to help with digestive fire, improve appetite and circulation
* Get plenty of vitamin C, add ginger to tea if you feel a cold coming on. You can also add to a warm bath along with baking soda
* Use natural saline solution in your nose to keep your nasal passages moist and clear during the dry winter months
* Bundle up! You really do lose more than half your body heat through your head so wear a hat and keep warm.
The other thing I love to do is get out a calendar or print one out from your computer. Keep count of the days leading up to Spring’s arrival and plot out all the things you would like to get done prior to then. We all know that “Spring Cleaning” is on everyone’s list so begin with yourself and write down all the things you would like to “clean out” before